Who believes COVID-19 is my responsibility? ME. I do.
We all have the days when we say to ourselves, “This really sucks, my whole life is upside down”. But Will Smith says, “It does NOT matter whose fault it is that something is broken, but it is your responsibility to fix it” (Will Smith, 2018).
We all want to blame COVID-19, politics, each other, the entire world for this pandemic. But, it is your RESPONSIBILITY to figure out how to fix it for your SELF. Figure out how to make this time work for yourself. Figure out how to make yourself smile and find joy in something. I know that maybe that does not happen overnight, but I do know that YOU can take one step right now to fix this for yourself. YOU can go on psychology today and find a therapist near you to talk to and take the first step, in trying to be happier. You can pick up the phone and call your friend instead of feeling sorry for yourself that you can’t go out to the bar when you want. You can go update your resume and start sending it to other companies if you hate your job. You can re-invent yourself right now.
It is your responsibility to make yourself happy. No one else can do that. This pandemic proves that. We cannot continue to depend on outside resources to make us happy anymore. We have to figure out how we can be happy when we are alone. We have to figure out what makes us happy. We have to take responsibility for our demons, for our fear, for our sadness. This pandemic might not be your fault, but it is your RESPONSIBILITY to fix this pandemic and make it work for you. When you are dealt a challenging hand of cards in life i.e. lose your job, someone you love dies suddenly, you get a poor diagnosis at the doctor, or you face the challenges of a pandemic and isolation, it is your responsibility to figure out how to manage that, “It is for damn sure your responsibility to figure out how you are going to deal with that trauma and figure out you are going to make a life out of it. It is for damn sure your responsibility to figure out how to overcome that pain and build a happy life for yourself” (Will Smith, 2018).
Let yourself have the moments or the day when you need it, but don’t stay there for too long. Sometimes we take three steps forward and one step backward. However, how you handle the one step backward determines if you go forward again or continue to go backward.
YOUR life is YOUR responsibility. No one can help YOU, but YOU! Use your resources, talk to others, educate yourself. Most importantly, make a commitment to yourself, that you are going to dig deep and do the work to give yourself the ability to be happy.
In a YouTube video after 9/11, there is a quote from a New York Yankee fan, Scott Gutterson, “In spite of what can happen to us, we can pull ourselves together” Gutterson, 2019).
YOU can pull yourself together, you can get through this time. You can be happy. Give yourself permission and take responsibility to fix what does not make you happy.
One day at a time.
This is your new beginning. Get up.
Gutterson, S. (2019). Remembering President Bush’s First Pitch at Yankee Stadium after 9/11. Yankees Avenue.
Smith, Will. (2018). Self Discipline – Best Motivational Speech Video (Featuring Will Smith). Motiversity.